Work and Family – My Story

When it comes to finding balance between work and family, we all have a story to tell.
Maybe you chose to be a Stay-at-Home Mom, maybe you work in an office,
maybe you work from home, maybe you work part-time.  Everyone has a story to tell.

Here is mine…..

Finding the right balance between work and home has always been a huge challenge for me.  Mostly because I always felt like a failure. How can I do good at work and do good for my family at the same time.  I never felt like I could give either 100% of my attention. It caused me tremendous frustration and stress.  I would often wonder why I even bothered to go to graduate school and I often wondered why I cared so much about earning that Vice President title. WHO CARES!  I did.  I worked my you-know-what-off to finally earn that darn title in 2007. Though I quit 5 months later.

The industry I’ve been working in for over 15 years is highly competitive and the environment extremely political.   I took a break after year 7, after my 3rd child was born.  The day I resigned I sobbed for hours and hours. I had no clue what I just did.

I stayed home with the kids for a few years.  It was nice to not have to worry about conference calls and meetings though I felt I had no clue who I was any more. I missed working but I very much enjoyed the time with my children.  I felt confused. I put this in the back of my mind so that we were able to enjoy our time together. We made great memories.  With two now in public school I knew I was ready to go back.   So I did.  I was scared.  Petrified.  I landed at another reputable company and stayed there for 1-1/2 years.  I hired a nanny to help me.  I filed for divorce. I went to marriage counseling.  I rescinded the papers.  I got re-hired at prior employer. Too much going on. I had a seizureOh my God.  

Life moved on….It was not so easy to get back in the door at this company where I once resigned.  It’s not like they held a welcome sign out for me that said, “glad you came back!”  In fact, I had to interview hard to get back in. I landed the job. This would be different, this job required I hold a non managerial position. Though I lost my swanky VP title, I suffered no pay loss.  In fact, what it afforded me was flexibility. Sometimes, changes that appear to be negative really are positive. It’s all how you look at it.   I now have more time for my family.  I have less stress.   I am happy.

I am proud of myself and I am proud of my accomplishments. It took me a very long time to be able to say that.

Comments

  1. So glad you ended up posting this… and I feel like I know a little more about you from reading it. Usually when I hedge I ALWAYS feel better after just doing it. Just getting ready of the thoughts in my mind and putting them some place else. I hope this did that for you. Such a story! I’ll be back to hear more for sure!

  2. Good for you for making the hard decisions!
    Blessings
    Shari

  3. I loved your blog.. the layout is so cute did you do it yourself? Either way it came out awesome Great Job 🙂
    I will come back to read some more

    • Thank you so much for saying that! Yes, I did it myself (patting my back right now!) lol.
      I had help only on the banner and buttons from Lynhea designs. Her button is on my sidebar.

  4. I’m always interested i how other people deal with balancing their work and family lives. I guess because I came from a family where ALL the women worked (for 3 generations) I didn’t consider it that unusual to be a working Mom or to end up as the primary breadwinner for our family at age 27. It was just my life. Now my 3 boys are almost grown and I’m still working. They’ve all turned out just fine, so I’ve never really second-guessed my decision to stay at work. I think it’s hard to make those decisions. It can so easily go one way or the other. #SITSSharefest

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