How To Avoid Clashes in Hells Kitchen

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hells kitchen 300x200 How To Avoid Clashes in Hells KitchenAre you and your partner totally compatible in the kitchen, agree on everything the other does, and work together like a well-oiled machine? Or, do you find there are things they do that get under your skin and simply annoy the hell out of you? If you answered yes to the latter, congratulations, you’re just like many others who struggle to get along in the kitchen.

This topic has come up quite a bit lately with friends and family and each time I hear one of these stories I wind up laughing out loud at the idiosyncrasies some people have. It seems that many couples have totally opposite habits and views about how to manage activities in the kitchen. It’s not that men always do things in a certain way, and women another, it’s just that they tend to think and act differently.

Compatibility in the kitchen is not necessarily a critical success factor in a relationship. However, for some people it can get so bad that they will do everything possible to avoid being together while there to eliminate the chance of fighting over something seemingly trivial. Here are some common pet peeves that can create hell in the kitchen and what you can do to avoid it.

My toast is done so where’s the butter?

I know it’s in there somewhere but I can’t seem to find it. It’s not where I always put it. You know; that special compartment on the refrigerator door where it’s been kept for years and years. It must be very difficult for some people to find that place where the butter belongs.

Is there a method to the madness for loading the dishwasher?

This is a common problem for many couples I’ve talked to. Why do some people jam anything and everything around into the dishwasher with no rhyme or reason while others obsessively organize dishes and utensils into tidy little groups? Do you hand wash everything until it’s sparkling clean before neatly placing it into its proper place to be cleansed again in the dishwasher? Or do you just throw it into any spot available without ever scraping off any of the excess food? Do pots and pans stand a chance of ever making it into your dishwasher? Some people would only clean them manually while others would never ever consider the effort and would just slam them in along with everything else and hope for the best. Has anyone ever conducted a scientific study to determine the best and most efficient way to clean dirty dishes? Does any of this really matter? I doubt it.

How many utensils does it take to stir the sauce?

Are you the master chef that will use every pot, pan and cooking utensil you own to prepare your favorite meals and leave a huge mess for cleanup afterwards? Or do you ration the items you use to cook and meticulously clean each and every one of them before ever sitting down to take a single bite?

Do food expiration dates really matter?

Apparently, some people have no clue about the fact that food does not stay fresh forever and will wait until it’s stinking rotten before throwing it out. Have you ever had the displeasure of drinking sour milk that someone put back in the refrigerator even though they knew it had gone bad? Have you ever been guilty of doing that? C’mon, is there any good excuse for that ridiculous behavior? Obviously not but it happens all the time.

Who ate the last cookie?

Why would anyone leave empty packages in the cabinets or refrigerator for others to discover? Whether it happens to be cookie crumbs, the last end slice of bread, a single spoonful of ice cream, or the last drop of milk, it’s just not nice to torture your partner in this way in their time of need.

Does your kitchen also double for the mailroom and home office?

Some people let their bills, letters, and other junk mail pile high on the counter tops where they will accumulate for months and never make their way out of the kitchen. Others insist they are perfectly stacked and routinely opened and processed in a timely manner in a separate room or office.

Does anyone actually eat leftovers?

How many days does leftover food stay in your refrigerator before it qualifies for the trash? Does your partner insist that nothing be thrown away until it’s been consumed for at least three or more consecutive days and nights or has become smelly and filled with mold? Really? Just throw it out already.

Do you have to deal with your guests hanging out in the kitchen?

It’s bad enough you have to tolerate your spouse; now your houseguests have to interfere as well? What’s up with that? It seems no matter what you do while entertaining; your guests always seem to stay in the kitchen particularly while you are trying to prepare the very food they will eat. Some will even offer you help or advice about cooking neither of which anyone typically wants. If you want them out, try moving the food or better yet move the liquor and watch them promptly exit.

Dinner is ready, so where is everyone?

Have you ever had the experience of slaving for hours in the kitchen preparing a special meal for your family and no one comes to the table even after you yell and scream for them? Does anyone appreciate how much time and money you’ve spent trying to serve them a nice meal? If you have been known to be a missing person at times, stop the nonsense, have some respect and show up early from now on to help out.

Why can’t we all just get along? As I’ve said before, most all of this is trivial and really shouldn’t matter in a long term and loving relationship. So, don’t sweat the small stuff and inflate these minor issues which may eventually lead to bigger problems in your relationship. Rise above and focus on what really matters and be respectful and grateful that your partner is doing the best they can. In the end though, if you can’t take the heat, stop complaining and get your butt out of the kitchen!



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